Being happy in itself involves one of the two concepts that a person seeks to be happy, or alternatively seeks to avoid unhappiness. Sigmund Freud, in his work Civilization And Its Discontents, understands humans “are foredoomed to discover that moments of happiness and contentedness are few, transient, and infrequent. The same cannot be said of the experience of the opposite.”(Sigmund Freud, 15) Freud does not believe true happiness exists with the oppression of civilization to control our “primitive impulses”(17) as sexual beings.
Throughout his work, Freud argues that people use false measurements of their standards for happiness: that they seek things such as power, wealth and success and underestimate what is of true value in life. Happiness can be not derived by simplistic approaches, but rather elaborate false sense of accomplishments either from nature, external or internal sources. This resonates in Freud’s hypothesis that
“we can derive intense enjoyment only from a contrast and very little from a state of things. Unhappiness is much less difficult to experience. We are treated with suffering from three directions: from our own body, which is doomed to decay and dissolution and which cannot even do without pain and anxiety as warning signals; from the external world which may rage against us with overwhelming and merciless forces of destruction; and finally from our relations to other men.”(43-44)
While the first two are easier to manipulate through medicine and proper safety precautions from the external pulls, the latter is perhaps the most enduring than the others. Through these potential dangers, a person’s approach to achieving happiness is altered – “the pleasure principle itself, indeed, under the influence of the external world, changed into the more modest reality principle”(44) – than one’s goal of achieving happiness only from the fact that they have escaped unhappiness gives less prominence to pleasure itself.
Freud argues that misplaced libido in order to seek pleasure fulfills our need for happiness, which cannot be truly fulfilled but can only be brought nearer to fulfillment through a positive approach, that of gaining happiness, or the negative approach, that of avoiding unhappiness. However, I believe that the definition of happiness is essentially different from one person to the next, and whether they achieve happiness is dependent on one’s own expectations of it and what they demand to fulfill those needs. And from this we can infer “that the abolition or reduction of those demands would result in a return to possibilities of happiness.”(59) For example, children in developing nations today are content with absolute essential needs such as clean water and a proper education, and accordingly this is how their definition of happiness is formed. In contrast, children growing up in Hollywood have a different outlook on what is considered a necessity as opposed to something they want. What some could say as "spoiled", children from a higher socio-economic background have their interpretation of happiness entrenched in foreign cars and the newest style on the fashion runway. In regards to happiness, one's definition will change immensely relative to personal aspirations, rather than a universally applied theme.